So, what is it about certain students that causing them to get teased or bullied, while other students with perhaps the same disorder does not teased or bullied? Is it possible that a student may be doing something that is inviting the teasing or bullying? This is not to suggest that a student being teased or bullied should be further victimized or blamed. However, perhaps what really needs to be done is to help the bullied students learn how to stop inviting such behavior (
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It is not that these students are verbally saying, “You can tease me”, but it may be something they are doing that sends a message loud and clear that they can be teased or bullied. What behaviors tend to invite teasing or bullying? This can be answered by asking; What is the teaser or bully getting from their behavior? Obviously, bullies are trying to get a response or control the student being teased or bullied. Therefore, when a student being teased responds by crying or even getting angry, the bully is getting what he or she wants.
Remember the old saying, “If I am out of control, someone else must be in control”. This statement suggests that if the bully’s goal is to control the student he or she is bullying, when the student gets out of control, he is actually reinforcing the bully’s behavior. Therefore, it seems reasonable that as educators we need to teach students skills of how to not respond, or how to not give the bully control. This may be one of the most important social